Lesbian online dating rules
Recently, I've been getting a lot of private Facebook messages from baby lesbians who are freshly out of the closet and asking me all kinds of questions:"How do I date girls? I will never forget how terrified I was when I first realized I wanted to exclusively swim in the girl pond. I exerted zero effort into attracting boy creatures, but I learned quickly that I didn't really need to. It can feel wildly intimidating to be a little, vulnerable kitten tossed into a teeming cesspool of seasoned dykes.So here it is, kids: Zara's official dating tips for the newly out LEZ. And lesbians are so incestuous that we've all dated each other by now. There is always a lesbian art walk, or book club, or walk across the Brooklyn Bridge. I used to troll the straight bars when I was a new lez, and almost all the girls I thought were gay weren't. I just sat back and watched my straight girlfriends make out with fratty-looking boys, and I would just grow increasingly bitter and irritated and end up overdrinking and waking up depressed and hopeless and hungover. In the early days, bite the bullet and GO TO THE GAY BAR (before they shut down). But they have NO right to be offended by you hitting on them when in lesbian land.
And that means breaking out of your comfort zone and making yourself open and available to meet new guys and gals and have new experiences.A friend setup is always the best way to meet cool people.Also, other gays, gays at the office, gays in the family, gays at the gym, gays everywhere will come flying out of the woodwork.After all, while it’s imperative that you don’t settle, it’s equally imperative that you give someone else a chance—just as you’d hope others would do for you in return. An additional rule when it comes to dating is to keep yourself out of harm’s way.And in light of many of today’s dating apps and sites where you’re potentially meeting a stranger, it’s never been more important to remain vigilant and put your safety and well-being first.